Living Skillfully: Your Mind and Health

I have a Thing about control.
photo credit: Jesse757
Not about controlling other people. (In fact, I kind of have a Thing about not controlling other people, because I hate other people trying to control me.) And not even so much about being in control of what’s happening around me, because I figured out early on [...]

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If you’ve seen the movie Back to the Future II (which I referenced in last week’s post), you’ll probably remember how Marty McFly had a glimpse of an alternate future where the bully Biff had grown rich through betting on sports, using an almanac that his future self had brought him. If I recall correctly, [...]

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Last week I surveyed selected members of my mailing list about what they wanted to see in the Emotional Circuit-Breaker Toolkit, because I want to make it really useful. (It’s already been useful for me – and I’ll talk about that some more soon – but I want it to be useful for you.)
What I [...]

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I have a rule. I don’t do smoking cessation work with people whose families want them to stop smoking.
I only do it with people who, themselves, personally, want to stop smoking.
I learned this after two unsuccessful experiences with clients in their 20s who were booked in, and brought along, by their mothers. The young [...]

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You won’t find the word “prodivalent” in a dictionary. It’s my friend Malcolm’s word.
Malcolm found he needed a word for how you feel when you have several equally good options and you’d be genuinely happy with any one of them. (That tells you quite a bit about Malcolm right there.) He came up with “prodivalent”, [...]

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