Apr 6

How Not to Get Swept Away By Emotions

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This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Breaking the Emotional Cycle

Imagine you are standing by the side of a busy road, watching the traffic go by.

Got that clear in all your senses? Close your eyes if you need to.

Now, imagine, just as vividly, that you are in one of the cars and it is taking you somewhere you don’t want to go.

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It’s a very different experience, isn’t it? That’s the difference between being associated and being identified.

Let me explain those terms quickly. When you’re associated (as opposed to dissociated), you are connected to what’s going on, aware of it, paying attention to it, but from a position of being an observer – you are looking at it in the third person, if you like. On the other hand, when you’re identified, you’re immersed in the experience. It’s like the difference between being in a boat and being in a river.

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I remember an interesting experience of being associated, but not identified, from an acting class I took years ago. In the class, we were partnered up, and we had to act out a scene with our partners. The script my partner and I were using was a domestic dispute between a couple, and it called for me to act angry.

Now, I wasn’t actually angry. I was pretending. But leaving the class afterwards, I felt the sensations of anger in my body, while simultaneously knowing that I wasn’t really angry. It was rather like those dreams where a place both is and isn’t your house.

The reason I took the acting class in the first place was to help me to become more comfortable about expressing emotion. I used to be very poorly connected to my emotions, which led, inevitably, to my being driven by them unconsciously. My friends would ask me if I was upset and I would honestly deny it, because I didn’t feel upset, even though they could hear it in my voice and see it on my face. I was, in fact, dissociated from my emotions a lot of the time.

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The acting class was an important step in connecting to my emotions, and by a stroke of fortunate timing, I took it just before my father died unexpectedly. I was able to grieve my loss much better as a result.

Over the next couple of years, I was able to develop my first successful romantic relationship and get married. Within our marriage, I’m able to express all kinds of emotions, positive and negative, in what is usually a helpful way. (I say “usually” because, as with anything else, the learning continues.)

These are the benefits of being associated to my emotions. I recognize them, I can name them, I’m aware that they’re going on, and I can express them appropriately.

Of course, sometimes I go beyond being associated into being identified. I run out into the traffic and jump into a car. I fall out of the boat and am swept away by the current.

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But that happens very rarely these days, because I know how to use the Welcoming Prayer.

The secret of the Welcoming Prayer is that you are associated, but not identified. The basic form of the Welcoming Prayer is to pause, recognize the emotion with which you are becoming identified, and welcome it by name. You aren’t welcoming the circumstances; you’re welcoming the emotion, and that requires that you recognize it and pay attention to it and name it.

Paying attention to it and naming it sets up a process which was explored in a brain scan study published in Psychological Science by Matthew D. Lieberman and colleagues. The parts of your brain which handle emotion are conveniently located deep down inside, close to the brainstem, which connects to your spinal cord, and other very basic, well-protected parts of the brain which regulate your breathing, heartbeat, blood pressure and so forth. This is why they can so quickly and efficiently get your body ready to fight or escape danger.

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Most of the time in modern life, though, the kinds of things that get us wound up are not things we can physically fight or run away from. Getting our bodies ready for physical effort that isn’t going to happen is counterproductive; it fills our bodies with chemicals that aren’t going to be used and, left unused, can cause damage over time. So what we want to do is calm this reaction down.

When we name the emotion, what it does is create a circuit from deep inside our brains out to the verbal parts of the brain, which are closely connected with rational thought and higher-level decision-making. This circuit seems to bleed off the activation of the deep, emotional brain and calm it down. Your perspective shifts, and you’re no longer identified with the emotion, feeling an experience of (for example) overwhelming anger taking control of your whole being; you are associated with the emotion, paying attention to it and being aware of it, but from the outside.

It’s extremely simple – but it works. Consult my page on the Welcoming Practice for the instructions, and give it a try.

UPDATE: I’ve now revised the material in this series and turned it into a self-reflection process as part of my ebook, Your Emotional Hamster Wheel and How to Get Off It. It’s included when you sign up for my free Simple Stress Management Techniques course.

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Aug 11

Building Up the Bodymind: Food for Mood?

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This entry is part 4 of 8 in the series Mind-Body Healing

As I mentioned in my last post, I’m reading Candace Pert’s fascinating book Molecules of Emotion at the moment, and her theory of the “bodymind” as one integrated, dynamic network is seizing my imagination. She’s a prominent scientist who has worked mostly on peptides, the “molecules of emotion” of her title, which are the means of communication between a number of bodymind systems.

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Peptides are made up of amino acids, the building blocks of proteins. There are a number of different amino acids, but there are 8 in particular that we can’t make for ourselves out of other amino acids, and we have to take these in through our food. They do get recycled, and if our diet is inadequate we can sometimes get them from the proteins that make up much of our body’s structure, but ultimately we have to eat them or we won’t have enough.

Because the peptides (and other messenger molecules which keep the body’s systems coordinated) are made from them, a lack of one of these essential amino acids is clearly a problem. Normally this doesn’t occur, of course, since they are common enough that any reasonably normal diet should contain all of them in sufficient quantity. Vegetarians have to be careful, though, and there are some subtleties to be aware of.

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As an example, I’ll start with tryptophan, which I came across when researching my Sleeper’s Checklist. Tryptophan is the precursor to the neurotransmitter serotonin and the neurohormone melatonin. Melatonin is thought to be involved in regulating the sleep-wake cycle, while serotonin is well known for its role in mood regulation. Antidepressant drugs apparently relieve depression by affecting the levels of serotonin available in the brain. The exact reason why this relieves depression (and why the antidepressant effects take a couple of weeks to kick in, even though the effect on serotonin is very rapid) is not yet fully understood.

Serotonin is also important in the digestive system for regulating the movement of the intestines, and in fact about 8 or 9 times as much serotonin is found in the digestive system as in the brain. In the brain, it modulates appetite, sexual desire, mood, anger and sleep, among other behaviours and drives. A Swedish study has even suggested a correlation between the density of a particular kind of serotonin receptor in the brain and the likelihood of having had a religious experience.

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Since serotonin is made from tryptophan, and we can’t make tryptophan, it’s important to have adequate levels of tryptophan intake in our diet – but it’s not just that simple (things seldom are when neurotransmitters are involved). Two other amino acids, phenylalanine and leucine, “compete” with tryptophan to be transported into the brain across the protective membrane which surrounds it (the blood-brain barrier), so not just the absolute amount, but also the ratio, of tryptophan to these other amino acids is important. Also, in some conditions such as lactose intolerance (difficulty digesting dairy products) or fructose malabsorption, tryptophan is not properly absorbed by the gut. Interestingly, fructose malabsorption has been linked to depression.

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So what foods help balance the books for tryptophan? Bananas, dates, pineapples, plums and nuts are mentioned in one article on nutrition, depression and sleep. However, an editorial in the Journal of Psychiatry and Neuroscience tends to minimize the contribution of diet to serotonin levels, though it does note some interesting correlations between levels of American corn or maize consumption and homicide rates in countries around the world (corn being relatively low in tryptophan). That article places more stress on changes in thinking, exercise, and exposure to light as non-drug means of raising serotonin levels (and I’ll talk about those more in future posts).

Not just serotonin levels, but the rate of serotonin turnover, seem to be significant in relation to violent behaviour and suicide. Low serotonin turnover, for reasons as yet not understood, correlates with high rates of these behaviours. So it isn’t just how much you have, but how long you’ve had it, apparently.

I was recently reading about another study correlating consumption low-tryptophan foods with aggression, not at a population level but in individuals. Moeller et al. (Tryptophan depletion and aggressive responding in healthy males, published in Psychopharmacology) found in 1996 that healthy young men, after 24 hours of a low-tryptophan diet and having been given a tryptophan-free amino acid mixture, responded significantly more aggressively a few hours afterwards than the same subjects under control conditions. So feeding aggressive or suicidal people on, for example, Diet Coke and corn chips (high in phenylalanine, low in tryptophan) seems like it would be a bad idea.

I’m not going to do the Usual Internet Thing and make a flat-out statement about how eating such-and-such a food will work a miraculous change in your mood because of its tryptophan content, though. The mechanisms are more complex than that. Diet does contribute to mood, and so eating a well-balanced diet that is well adapted for your particular biochemistry and other circumstances is an important contribution to keeping your bodymind in good order, but it’s just not as simple as eating more tryptophan-containing foods in order to feel better.

For further information, I suggest Nutritiondata.com and the World’s Healthiest Foods website, two excellent sources of information about food and health. (Those links lead to pages directly relevant to tryptophan.)

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Jul 3

Regular practice: the path to change

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Euclid is said to have told a king looking for a quicker way to learn mathematics, “There is no royal road to geometry.”

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Part of the challenge of practicing hypnotherapy is to balance two truths: Hypnotherapy can bring about rapid and significant change, but only regular practice brings about the deepest change.

And regular practice does reliably do this, as Brain Blogger reminds us in Reflections on Plasticity.

Plasticity is a buzzword in neurological circles at the moment. The study of the brain has been thrown into a furore by the relatively recent discovery that even in adulthood our brains are constantly changing their structure in response to the challenges we give them (unless we don’t give them any, of course).

As the Brain Blogger post points out, this is also true of our bodies. Anyone who has kept up an exercise programme for any length of time has seen outward changes to their bodies, but the body also rearranges itself on the inside to meet the physical challenges it encounters regularly, changing how it processes and stores energy, for example.

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Anything you’ve been practicing over a long period of time changes your brain (and quite probably your body) to make that practice the most straightforward thing to keep doing, in other words. Which is why when people come to me for help to change, I can’t just stop at helping them to shift their thoughts, feelings and behaviour into a new pattern. I need to give them a way to nurture and sustain that new pattern so that it can fully replace the old one.

The CDs I give people to listen to are part of this, but one of my key tools is a small blue bookmark which sets out two simple practices. I bang on about these all the time (they’re in my book, and they’ll probably be in the next one for that matter). I do this because they work.

The Welcoming Practice is a way of defusing the power of anger and fear in our lives. It’s a practice of paying attention to our negative emotions, pausing, acknowledging them, and then letting them go so that we can decide what to do next out of our whole brain instead of just a part the size of an almond.

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The Relaxation Response Practice is a way of returning our bodies and minds to their rest state on a regular basis. As I teach it, it’s also a way of practicing letting go of thoughts and emotions, so that when we get thoughts and emotions that potentially will drag us off to a place we don’t want to go, we have a mental muscle developed, and a reflex developed, which enables us to let them go instead.

In my first session with almost all my clients, I take them through a visualization in which they let go of the thing they no longer want or need. Thinking about this while writing this post, I need to emphasize to them that it is likely to keep coming back, and for as long as it does, they’re going to need to practice continuing to let it go.

The first letting go is an indication of a long-term intention for change, which brings about a significant shift. The long-term practice is what makes the change permanent. It’s like the difference between a wedding and a marriage.

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